
With permission, he parked his car in what he thought was a safe place, knowing not to tell anyone but his best friends that he had a new car. All was well for the first month, but some of the band kids discovered Jory’s secret and one day after school, he found that the entire side of his new car had been anonymously keyed. He was devastated! He knew it was someone from band, but he never found out who was so mean and cruel.
When Jory left for CalArts the Fall after High School Graduation, the Protege was filled to capacity. The trunk was jam packed with a full size piano keyboard and stand, a 12-string Ovation guitar, a computer, a midi interface, and speakers. The back seat contained laundry baskets with bedding, towels, and clothing—mostly black jeans, heavy metal concert T-shirt’s, a Hard & Heavy leather jacket, motorcycle boots, and a variety of hats. On the floor of the back seat was a disassembled metal bookcase, cables and tools for assembling computer networks, and piles of CDs. The front seat held his monitor, which was safety belted in place, and his Newton keyboard. (He wore the Newton in a belt holster and had already become adept at taking class notes electronically, so it was cutting edge, essential equipment, especially since Jory’s handwriting was almost illegible.) On the floor, in front of the passenger seat, were bags of other necessities for dorm life and college. He pulled out of our driveway with us following him to CalArts to help him unload and settle in.

“What did I do?” asked Jory.
“You were ping ponging in the lane,” he responded. “Have you been drinking?”
“I don’t drink,” responded Jory. “What is ping ponging?”
“Where are you going?” asked the cop. “Please step out of the vehicle.”
“I’m a student at CalArts,” he responded. The cop eyed his motorcycle boots and black leather jacket with Hard & Heavy airbrushed on the back. Jory sported a red goatee and long hair pulled into a ponytail that reached down his back. He could tell that the cop thought that he was one of “those weirdos on the hill.”
Of course, Jory passed the sobriety test, but the officer still issued him a ticket for unsafe driving. He was furious and decided to fight the ticket. He showed up in court with his long hair and standard dress uniform of black jeans, Metallica T-shirt, boots, and leather jacket. Even though the cop showed up and testified against him, the judge hadn’t heard of ping ponging, yet sentenced Jory to community service so it wouldn’t show up on his driving record.
The judge didn’t know that he would be widening a couple of doors that Jory had already opened for himself. He enjoyed community service! We had done it for years as a family. His “penalty” time was spent at the local hospital repainting red curbs. He loved it! He felt so good contributing to the welfare of the community, and he learned all about highway paints, which served him later.
He volunteered at Valencia City Hall to help with other community activities. His favorite was helping at the city Easter egg hunt, a new experience for a Jewish college student. Later, he recalled his painting skills to use in a CalArts parking lot prank. He and his friends painted all the spaces with an abandoned, post-earthquake, handicap stencil, to protest faculty parking taking over already limited student spaces.

Sometime later, Jory and his girlfriend were at CalArts, along with hundreds of other students, when the Northridge Earthquake struck. Bookshelves tumbled down, electrical connections sparked, windows shattered. Glass and rubble were everywhere, as were fear and confusion. Electricity and all lines of communication were down, roadways shifted, and freeway connectors collapsed. Students ran outside and waited for the earth to stop moving, but the aftershocks were plentiful and just as scary.

Upon his return to CalArts, the aftermath of earthquake clean-up was just beginning. Alternate routes on side streets made getting back to campus a long and tedious trip. Freeways to the campus and the main building were closed. Students climbed over debris to extract their belongings from the dorms. Many students, like Jory’s roommate from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, were so traumatized that they evacuated home and never returned. Classes slowly resumed, but in neighboring facilities. Some of Jory’s classes were held in a structurally sound pre-school, where the CalArts students sat low to the ground using mini chairs and tables. A creative and enterprising student came up with a black T-shirt with white jagged lettering to commemorate the occasion. Jory and many of his classmates proudly wore this “SHIFT HAPPENS” shirt for many years after the Northridge Earthquake.

Following the reception, he changed only his shoes and moved onto the second biggest event of the day: buying his first vehicle. He had told us beforehand that his needs had changed and a sedan could not haul his essential sound equipment into the future. We had agreed to let him trade in the Protege for a silver Chevy pickup truck. Jory’s new job as an Electron at the Jim Henson Creature Shop, enabled him to assume the monthly payments and continue living on his own, as well as acquire more essential sound equipment.
That truck served him well. It carried him through several changes of employment. When the Creature Shop closed its doors to move to England, Jory transitioned to working for Disney Online, a frustrating job because the Disney employees could never meet their deadlines, which caused Jory to continuously be in week-end crunches when adding the last minute sound to their projects. He left that job and drove his truck, containing all his belongings, to Marin to join the team at LucasArts doing sound design for video games.
The truck was more than a vehicle, it also served as his mobile office. On a daily basis, he checked his post office box and immediately filed the mail in the driver’s door side pocket. Sometime during the month, when the pocket was overflowing, Jory retrieved the unopened envelopes to investigate what bills were overdue and which credit cards should receive minimal payments to keep him going. Erroneously, he thought that the exorbitant late fees could be deducted later when he filed his taxes. One rainy night, after open mic at the Sleeping Lady in Fairfax, his bill payment process was interrupted when the truck was burglarized. The thief stole his beloved Newton and most of his mail, leaving a few straggling envelopes in the mud puddle beside the truck. Trying to reconstruct his debt was painful and tedious, prompting him to find a better method to handle his finances.


Many of Jory’s new Fairfax friends were artists and musicians and some were raised in local communes by hippie communities. They were active participants in the summer gatherings of Burning Man in the Black Rock Desert of Nevada. Attendees joined together to co-create Black Rock City, consisting of thousands of temporary, makeshift squatters, dedicated to art and community. This pop-up city, where almost everything that happened, was created entirely by its week-long citizens, depended upon complete, active participation in the experience. Each person brought along everything needed for the week: food, water, shelter from the blazing summer sun, sleeping accommodations, and artistic expressions to share with others. Everything was shared freely, without money or obligation, and with great appreciation.
When Jory informed us of his plan to attend Burning Man, I was apprehensive and not at all enthused. It sounded like a giant Love In with lots of drugs and free sex. To me, it looked like a perfect place for a police raid. I searched on the internet and found tons of photos depicting nudity and craziness. One photo showed a lengthy, wooden wall on a raised platform, with knee high, large cut-out, vertical oval holes about every two feet. Behind the wall were both male and female participants mooning through the holes. In front of the fence, were nude painters with artistically painted, perfectly oval, rear ends, joyfully painting the nude canvases poking through the fence.
I called Jory on the phone. “Are you sure that you want to go to Burning Man? It looks like fun, but it also looks weird and trouble waiting to happen.”
“Nope! I’m going!” he replied.
“Well, don’t do anything weird or illegal,” I cautioned.
“Mom,” he countered, “I’m going to look for the weirdest, most dangerous things and do them!”
“Ok,” I replied. “I trust you to make good choices, so have fun and take lots of sunscreen.”
“You know that I’ll stay out of trouble and I’ve already brought sunscreen from your house.”
Jory threw himself into preparations for attending Burning Man. He special ordered curving artistic shapes of sealed glass tubes, filled with low pressure neon gas, to conform to the silhouette of his trike. It took hours to design and carefully attach the neon tubes to the handlebars, wheels, and framework. Finally, his tricked up his trike would glow in the dark and was ready to take to Burning Man as a unique, creative, transportation offering to the residents.


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Jory Prum (2009)
I am trustworthy, open, and fiercely loyal. I am driven by commitment. I am a member of my community and strive to see it constantly improve and thrive. I have a need to be at the forefront of things. I enjoy doing things others don't or haven't yet. I do not pursue relationships that have no long-term possibility and I have no interest in casual sex.
I am trustworthy, open, and fiercely loyal. I am driven by commitment. I am a member of my community and strive to see it constantly improve and thrive. I have a need to be at the forefront of things. I enjoy doing things others don't or haven't yet. I do not pursue relationships that have no long-term possibility and I have no interest in casual sex.
Barbara Levine
What great stories you tell about Jory. He was an amazing and creative guy.Ric Fink
None of Jory’s friends have forgotten their dear friend.
Delightful!
I love the way u r remembering ur son.
Sophia Litt
Every time I see a picture of him, he has a smile or grin on his face. What a delight in your life he must have been!
Jamie Meyer
Miss him dearly.
Blue Fluteman
I was just thinking about Jory and missing him.
Sarah Lloyd
What a marvelous legacy you left, Jory.
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